What Do They Really Want?
What do they really want? She asked me
But I had no answer...
Only many unanswered questions
Alagbe said he loved me... she began
that I was the sugar in his tea
I believed him... so I loved him back
Then, Alagbe said I'm a gem but He cannot marry me... that his mother is unhappy
He was sorry that he took away my 5 years
So, what did you do, I asked
I cried she said
And then I stood up when the water was all out
I dressed up and applied my pancake to continue my journey on the broken road of love.
Then I met Adekoya
Adekoya, the golden boy
He wanted me to trust him, He said he was not Alagbe...and my heart believed him
Adekoya loved me, maybe even more than Alagbe ever did
So I opened my heart to him and I loved him back
It was sweet... the broken road finally led me to heaven
Then Ajike came, and Adekoya chose her too
Adekoya was a two-edged sword, He refused to be a cutlass.
But I wouldn't share... So Adekoya must choose
My golden boy said he was sorry, that I'm a good one but he would not choose.
So, what will you do, I asked
I am still crying...
And I'm asking what they all really want?
sometimes, we don't even know
ReplyDeleteWhat do they want? I don't think they really know...
ReplyDeleteYou're right. They don't really know... like most of us unmarried.
DeleteI'm sure many guys have had their own share of the heartbreaks too. Everyone knows what they want but the problem is what we want keeps changing. So,if u can get one whose wants can accommodate yours too and the inevitable changes of your wants,then compatibility might not be too far away.
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ReplyDeleteI think the core issue isn't not knowing what you want. Sometimes, you're able to define what you want, you get it and then still find out that you don't really wanna be in that relationship. From my personal experience and what I've learnt studying people who are have a working relationship in marriage, I believe what men really want is a certain kind of PEACE towards a lady. And by men, I mean men who're ready to commit and are ready for marriage. Let's not forget that us men are scared of commitment, by default. So the PEACE I'm referring to conquers that fear of commitment. It makes you deal with issues differently than you would have with another lady towards whom you don't have that kind of peace. Peace, my friends, is what mean REALLY want. It's just really unfortunate that not everyone can bring that peace.
ReplyDeleteI think it's in the nature of men to thirst for exotic stuffs.
ReplyDeleteBy exotic, in this context, I mean new stuffs. A given lady will ordinarily be able to offer her man a limited array of 'amusements'. Invariably, therefore, once our man exhausts these limited array of amusements our lady in question can offer him, he quests for new grounds/amusements, as it were (i.e. another lady, or, even, ladies!).
The following reasoning is why I think, alongside many other thinkers, that the average man is predisposed to being polygamous. Evolutionary biologists and allied researchers have indeed furnished us with ample data to confirm the truth of this claim.
Whereas this 'fact' is not meant to justify men to act to their 'nature' and hence just use and dump ladies as they suit their fancies. NO. rather, my point is that the ultimate reason why men (as with women) are tagged to be rational, unlike their fellow animals, is because they live in concert with others like themselves. Since men live in societies and since society is undergirded by a 'social contract' which entails that they surrender a modicum, at least, of their natural liberties, it follows, I think, that they mayn't infact afford to be polygamous since the latter, as I've just argued, entails that they (un)wittingly hurt others's (the lady) feelings - which is not justiceable....
Howbeit, I still maintain that our ladies will do well to reckon this fact that men are predisposed to be polygamous - for the reasons, among others, identified, above. If they bear this in mind, then they would again do well to attend to this solution I quickly want to propose. It goes thus:
Since, as earlier said, a natural quest for exocticness is what fuels polygamy, and since polygamy is the usual outcome of this natural predisposition (bear in mind that I believe that it needn't be encouraged, nonetheless, cos of its largely ill ripple effects ), it means that our ladies, too, will do to be 'inventive' with the list of amusements they can offer men (bear in mind that it was, in fact, these amusements that attracted our man to her....). At the risk of not being overly generalistic in my submission, let me say that men, like myself, like surprises nay routine (I understand that women crave this more...) to the end of keeping us amused, interested and ultimately to avoid looking elsewhere....lol
But men, too, should tame their selves - afterall, we are humans, nay goats or beasts...
In my opinion, if both men and women bear the foregoing in mind, everyone will be hale and happy! 😂
Thank you for this 'piece', Taiwo, and good night.